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Day of Memories

Today on the 10th of September a group of people gathered to remember our dear departed friend. I’ve spoken of this friend numerous times on here so don’t feel the need to rehash in any great detail. In the almost 18 months since her passing not a day goes by that I don’t think of her, generally more than once. Today her family and friends gathered to celebrate her life. It was a couple of hours of stories, memories, tears and laughter. But one thing was consistent… She was incredibly well loved.

What amazed me more than anything was the way that my BF reacted to the gathering. I met him about 5 or 6 months after my friend passed on so he never had the chance to know her. I know he would have loved her, the would have become great friends… she had that effect on people. But (ever loyal to those closest to her) she would have grilled him and never let up until she was sure that he was perfect for me. In fact, I think she’s still doing that. I think she sent him to me. Anyway.. back to the point…. my BF had never met Rash but numerous time during the service he was tearing up along with the rest of us. He said that he felt that even in those two hours something about her life and spirit touched him in a way that he did not expect. Although they’d never met I think he walked away feeling like he knew her.

Throughout the service people were invited to speak. To share stories, thoughts memories and insights into the wonderfully amazing person that was Rash. I even read my poem… and ALMOST got through the entire thing without breaking up. I would have been ok too if I hadn’t looked at her mom at just that last moment. The overwhelmingly consistent message what that Rash was an inspiration to every single person she encountered. Childhood gymnastics coaches, teachers, coworkers, friends and family all shared the same message. She was a determined, tenacious, spirited, amazing person that brought out the very best in those around her. In the short time that was her life she touched the lives of so many others. She left a piece of her behind in all of us and that’s how we can be certain that she will NEVER truly be gone. She taught each of us how to be a better person and she did it in a way that you didn’t even realize what was happening. She got inside your heart and stayed put. She was the most caring and compassionate person I’ve ever met. Her smile (which was a constant fixture on her face) lit up the room and brightened even the gloomiest of times.

Before I sign off tonight I’d like to share a couple of my favorite memories of Rash. I met Rash about 3 years ago and we became instant best friends. Rash was hearing impaired. She could read lips and speak and once you took the time to listen to her she was perfectly easy to communicate with. But her lip reading skills came in handy for entertainment purposes more than once. There were numerous occasions where we’d be out enjoying a drink, or lunch, or just chilling on some patio and she would tell us what was going on at every table around us. It was a most entertaining way to enhance your people watching excursions. She always caught the juiciest bits of whatever was going on around her. She never missed a beat. My other favorite memory of Rash was our weekly TV dates. She’d text me about 8:45pm telling me she was home and ready and I’d get online. We’d watch Grey’s Anatomy and Private Practice ‘together’ chatting on IM the entire time. If one of us was gong to miss the show we’d both record it and make plans to watch another day. While it may seem like such a simple thing it was an amazing way to share time with a friend that I just didn’t get to see as often as I’d have liked. While we talked almost every day (over IM or text of BBM) I looked forward to our girls night TV every week.

We’d been friends for such a short time when she was taken from this world, but she was a friend like no other. She’s someone who will be in my heart for the rest of my life. I am very very grateful for the love and friendship we shared and for the people that her passing brought into my life as well. And even though they never met, I am incredibly thankful that my BF was given a chance to know her in some small way too… it just proves that she’s out there still watching out for her family and making sure that everyone knows it.


September 10, 2011 Posted by | Faith, Inspiration, Life | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

French Fry Happy Hours

Tonight is “French Fry Happy Hour” and I am very very excited about it. Not because of the french fries per se but because of the friends I get to see during French Fry Happy Hour. My friend Rash LOVED french fries… next to coffee and chocolate they really were her favorite thing in the world. After she passed away last year a group of us starting getting together regularly to indulge in this favorite food of hers and just reminisce and have some together time. This group of friends has become a very important part of my life and this week I think we all need some French Fries and some time to remember our ‘little angel’ who’s watching over us.

Tonight we’re headed to “Bar Dupont” in Dupont Circle. I have absolutely no clue as to the quality of their french fries…and really, that’s not the point. We’re meeting up between 6 and 6:30 and just spending some good old fashion face time together. A couple of drinks, some tasty snacks (including the french fries of course) and some great conversation. There is honestly nothing I could want more this evening.

Another plus is that we have a new member of our ‘crew’ joining us tonight. She’s a highschool friend of Rashmees who reached out to me last week looking for a connection to people who knew and loved Rash. She’s a sweet girl and so of course we enveloped her into our group… All in all it should be a great night. Unfortunately one of our crew came down with a stomach bug this afternoon and is now down sick… but we’ll raise a glass (and a fry or two) in his honor and make sure he gets his butt better so he can be at the next one.

It’s really amazing what being with friends can do at a time when you’re missing someone who’s gone from your life. They have such a way of focusing you on the good things and easing the pain of missing… even if just a little bit. We all knew Rash from different facets of her life… and although we crossed paths over the years none of us REALLY knew each other until after Rash passed. Now, I can’t imagine NOT having these people in my life. One of the greatest things you can do to remember your lost loved ones is to share stories about them. To talk to other people that knew them and gather stories from them as well. It’s those things that keep our loved ones close to us. It’s those moments that remind us that they are really not gone at all.

That’s what the French Fry Happy Hour is all about… good friends sharing stories and laughter and yes even occasionally tears talking about our lives (both past and present) and about the loved ones (here and gone) that make our lives the wonderful things that that they are. So, I am off to meet the crew now. I hope that you all have a wonderful evening and that you take a minute to think of a fun and happy memory about someone that touched your life and has since moved one.

May 18, 2011 Posted by | Fun & Entertainment, Inspiration, Life | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment