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Day of Memories

Today on the 10th of September a group of people gathered to remember our dear departed friend. I’ve spoken of this friend numerous times on here so don’t feel the need to rehash in any great detail. In the almost 18 months since her passing not a day goes by that I don’t think of her, generally more than once. Today her family and friends gathered to celebrate her life. It was a couple of hours of stories, memories, tears and laughter. But one thing was consistent… She was incredibly well loved.

What amazed me more than anything was the way that my BF reacted to the gathering. I met him about 5 or 6 months after my friend passed on so he never had the chance to know her. I know he would have loved her, the would have become great friends… she had that effect on people. But (ever loyal to those closest to her) she would have grilled him and never let up until she was sure that he was perfect for me. In fact, I think she’s still doing that. I think she sent him to me. Anyway.. back to the point…. my BF had never met Rash but numerous time during the service he was tearing up along with the rest of us. He said that he felt that even in those two hours something about her life and spirit touched him in a way that he did not expect. Although they’d never met I think he walked away feeling like he knew her.

Throughout the service people were invited to speak. To share stories, thoughts memories and insights into the wonderfully amazing person that was Rash. I even read my poem… and ALMOST got through the entire thing without breaking up. I would have been ok too if I hadn’t looked at her mom at just that last moment. The overwhelmingly consistent message what that Rash was an inspiration to every single person she encountered. Childhood gymnastics coaches, teachers, coworkers, friends and family all shared the same message. She was a determined, tenacious, spirited, amazing person that brought out the very best in those around her. In the short time that was her life she touched the lives of so many others. She left a piece of her behind in all of us and that’s how we can be certain that she will NEVER truly be gone. She taught each of us how to be a better person and she did it in a way that you didn’t even realize what was happening. She got inside your heart and stayed put. She was the most caring and compassionate person I’ve ever met. Her smile (which was a constant fixture on her face) lit up the room and brightened even the gloomiest of times.

Before I sign off tonight I’d like to share a couple of my favorite memories of Rash. I met Rash about 3 years ago and we became instant best friends. Rash was hearing impaired. She could read lips and speak and once you took the time to listen to her she was perfectly easy to communicate with. But her lip reading skills came in handy for entertainment purposes more than once. There were numerous occasions where we’d be out enjoying a drink, or lunch, or just chilling on some patio and she would tell us what was going on at every table around us. It was a most entertaining way to enhance your people watching excursions. She always caught the juiciest bits of whatever was going on around her. She never missed a beat. My other favorite memory of Rash was our weekly TV dates. She’d text me about 8:45pm telling me she was home and ready and I’d get online. We’d watch Grey’s Anatomy and Private Practice ‘together’ chatting on IM the entire time. If one of us was gong to miss the show we’d both record it and make plans to watch another day. While it may seem like such a simple thing it was an amazing way to share time with a friend that I just didn’t get to see as often as I’d have liked. While we talked almost every day (over IM or text of BBM) I looked forward to our girls night TV every week.

We’d been friends for such a short time when she was taken from this world, but she was a friend like no other. She’s someone who will be in my heart for the rest of my life. I am very very grateful for the love and friendship we shared and for the people that her passing brought into my life as well. And even though they never met, I am incredibly thankful that my BF was given a chance to know her in some small way too… it just proves that she’s out there still watching out for her family and making sure that everyone knows it.


September 10, 2011 Posted by | Faith, Inspiration, Life | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Happy Easter

What a glorious day!! It’s sunny and warm and I get to spend the day relaxing with my BF and cooking dinner for my DC family. It’s basically what I’d consider to be the perfect day.

Easter back home in Canada with my family was always a big family event. We got up and went to church. Then came home and had a family breakfast while checking out our Easter baskets to see what kind of candy and surprises the Easter bunny had left for us each year. After breakfast we were off to my aunt or uncles house for the big crazy Irish Catholic Easter dinner (occasionally we got to stay at home cause mom was hosting). Each year my aunts and uncles would hide eggs and send us kids off for a back yard egg hunt. It was time spent with cousins and aunts and family. We all sat down and had dinner – ham, potatoes, salad, veggies, wine, beer, cheesecake and lots and lots of chocolate. With so many of us floating around it was always a great time. As we got older and branched out into our own lives we don’t all make it back for all the big holiday dinners any more. So when we do it’s a great time to catch up and spend time with some of the people that mean the most to me.

This year I didn’t get back to Canada for the big family dinner. I actually haven’t been back in Canada for Easter since I moved here. But this year I decided to spend it with the people I consider to be my family here in DC. My BF has been here most of the weekend and helped me get things organized for dinner tonight. Squeaks and her hubby are coming over for dinner and my dear friend LA is hanging out this afternoon for a little bit. She’s not able to stay for dinner but I am glad that she was able to come hang out at least for a little bit.

Family is one of the most important things in life and most especially on holidays like Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas. I have been very very fortunate in my life that I have a wonderful set of aunts, uncles, and cousins that I grew up with. We’re a crazy close family and would do anything for each other. I am even more fortunate that I’ve been able to build a close group of friends here that I consider to be my family. Just like my aunts, uncles, cousins, parents and sisters back home they are people I have been able to count on to be there for me in tough times and happy times. They are definitely people who I know will be a big part of my life for the rest of my life. So I am very happy to be cooking for them and hosting Easter dinner at my place. It’s also the first (of hopefully many) Easter’s I’ve been able to share with my BF.

All in all today’s been a much better day than yesterday. But, I’ve also been holed up in my apartment most of the day. So here’s hoping that tomorrow doesn’t bring more drama but rather some good news about the fate of my car.

April 24, 2011 Posted by | Faith, Fun & Entertainment, Random | , , , , , , | Leave a comment